OK vrs. No Way

Every month Cosmo has a section called Sexy vrs. Skanky outlining acceptable sexy things vrs. unforgivable skanky things, like "Taking another Stars arm" vrs. "Grabbing another Stars crotch". Get it? It's a cute way of letting people know social boundaries and acceptable behaviors. I thought I'd share with you the boyfriend version: OK vrs. No Way!

OK                      vrs.                           No Way!
Watching the game with the boys           Using the game as an excuse
                                                            to spend the night at the
                                                            bar
Talking to people                                   Taking girls phone numbers
                                                            that you spent the night
                                                            chatting with
Unfriending your ex on FB                      Emailing your ex, just
                                                            to catch up
Having your GF in your profile pic           Untagging your self in your
                                                            GF's pics
Telling the truth                                      Making your GF feel crazy
                                                             for being upset about
                                                             a fight

Sounds simple right? Maybe some boyfriends need a guideline how to not cross a line and upset their girlfriends just like some women need a reminder about wearing panties with a mini skirt. Well here is a good start for those men! Pass it on, share it with your friends, comment on it! I'd love to hear your OK vrs. No Way! guidelines.

Forgiveness and Love: When it's not enough, and when it is.

 I'm really forgiving. I believe in unconditional love, second chances and that people can, and will, change themselves if they want to. All I want is honesty. The truth is the only real and undeniable thing in this world, that's why it's so important to me. No matter what happens as long as I get the truth I can forgive, and forget.
I dated a guy that I think cheated on me when he went out of town. I didn't want to know for sure, so I never asked, I just accepted that he was who he was, and I loved him for him. I never tried to change him, I fell for him, not who he could be, but who he was. I've heard "to forgive without requiring the other to change is not only self-destructive, but ensures a dysfunctional relationship will remain so by continually rewarding mistreatment" but I don't think so. I was happy with him, when he was with me I was his girlfriend, no one else was. He never lied to me, he just never came out and told me his "mistakes". He was a fantastic boyfriend, who I just didn't love enough. I ended it when I realized that. He wanted more, and I was happy just being his girlfriend. He was a great guy, just not the one for me. I thought he deserved someone who would give up anything for him, go to all lengths to be with him and keep him happy, because that's what I want.
Being honest, forgiving mistakes, trust, loving someone for who they are and sacrificing are some of the most important things to me. I'm willing to give all that, and more, and believe it will all come back to me. Happiness is a journey, not a destination, and I'm loving the ride!