Cake, Breakfast, and Bed Making

The Bed Maker is excellent at using the telephone. He calls when he says he is going to, and calls with no reason! He messages at all the right times, not just when it's good for him. It's amazing to have someone talk to me when it's good for me, not just him. He makes time for me, and has changed plans with his friends so he could see me. I am pretty busy, and since he wanted to see me he changed his plans so he could. I've been to his place a few times and him to mine. It's pretty even, and we have a good time together.

It was his Birthday last week. He went out with some friends for dinner. I found out they didn't get him a cake, or pay for his dinner even! No one should go with out Birthday cake!! I called him Saturday to invite him over for cake. I told him I was making him a Birthday cake and he sounded really excited. He came over and we hung out while the cake baked and cooled. I had made angel food cake and got strawberries and raspberries. we tried to make whipped cream, but since I don't have a hand mixer we tried to use a fork. This was a bad plan. We ended up going to the store and buying a can of whipped cream. While we were there he grabbed breakfast stuff. He had promised me breakfast last weekend but we didn't end up with time for it. He remembered, and followed through on his promise.

So I'm pretty bad at relationships, or at least defining them. So what is my next step? Am I really that girl who over analyzes everything? Should I just relax. I'm panicking because my online dating profile deletion dead line is tomorrow. Maybe I'll just relax and see what happens. How many times have I said this? Anyways, back to my date,

In the morning he made me an awesome breakfast. And he helped me make the bed.

The Bed Maker (TBM)

As my dead line of deleting my online dating profile creeps closer, I exchange messages with another boy. He sent me many messages, all of them more than one sentence. They had solid content, He actually seemed to be trying to get to know me. Eventually we started texting each other. He was away in Arizona and we texted while he was there. We made plans to meet up when he got back . He suggested going indoor rock climbing for our first date. When I mentioned I have climbed before he rescinded, he didn't want to look bad. It was cute. Eventually I propose going bowling in Duncan. He agreed it was a fantastic idea. We sorted out the details and I was looking forward to it. I love road trips, even if they are just to Duncan!

Date day arrives and he messages me all freaked out. It's his first time meeting someone on line and he is worried I'm really an ogre or something. I laughed and sent him a couple pictures from my work email. Now he knows my last name and where I work. I hope he isn't a physco! Apparently he was OK with the pictures I sent and he picks me up right on time and opens the door to his truck for me. (A GMC Sierra, with heated seats!! Awesome!!) During the drive up he was really easy to talk to, he made me laugh, and there were no awkward silences. He asked lots of questions and had no problem answering any of mine. We bowled three games and he let me win the last one. He asked if I wanted to play pool, and I said yes. We ended up at the Log House. They don't have a pool table, but they had drinks. He drove me home and I invited him in for one more drink. I poured it extra strong so he wouldn't be able to drive home. Man I'm sneaky. He opened the car door for me all night, was really polite, listened, told the truth about everything (Even about being married before). I had a great night and just didn't want it to end.

In the morning he was really sweet, still. He made my bed... I always make my bed in the morning, but today he helped me. It was nice having someone help me with something! He also fed Mac and took him outside and played with him while I got ready. All with out me asking. Nice guys do exist!! TBM asked me when he was going to see me again. I told him that was up to him. So he asked me if I wanted to have breakfast Saturday. TBM made plans with me. He wants to see me. I know this was one date, but it was one really good date! As I've wrote this he has messaged me twice and phoned me when he said he would. Wow.

The one thing I hate the most about being single is having to take out my own garbage. I know TBM would take out the garbage for me. Is he too good to be true? Or have I found Mr. Right Now?

Do You Want To Smell My Candles?

I go to bed early, mostly because I have nothing else to do. Also because I get up really early for work. When my phone beeped at 8:30 I was already in bed, but I read it anyway. It was from The Friend. I almost want to rename him now, since The Non Boy Friend is so out of my life The Friend doesn't make sense. I guess he can stay The Friend until he deserves another name.

The Friend was a little drunk, and his messages were cute, flirty and funny. He wanted to go to Wendy's but couldn't drive, so he asked me if I wanted to make bad choices. I asked how a bacon burger could ever be a bad choice, and he explained that he was the bad choice. I laughed and said yes, I'll be right there! I got out of bed and headed to go pick him up, no make up, sweat pants and a hoodie. He got in the car and we headed to Wendy's. He wanted to eat in the restaurant so we went in. I always am very relaxed around him. I never feel stupid or judged. I have fun, and laugh, and he laughs too. We ate and got back in the car. Since we were just a minute from the lagoon I wanted to go down to the water. It was a clear night, and the ocean under the stars is absolutely fantastic.

We pulled into a spot on the lagoon and hung out for a bit. He is so easy to talk to and be around. He kissed me and I kissed him back. I had made a decision not to spend the night with him, ever again, but he wasn't making it easy. Thankfully someone parked right beside us so we left. As I pulled into his condo parking lot I stopped by his door, far away front he parking lot. He asked if I wanted to come in and smell his candles and cuddle. How could I not say yes to that? We went upstairs and laid on his bed. His candles did smell pretty good. I fell asleep in his arms for an hour or so and woke up when he kissed my on the forehead. I told him I was going home, he got up to walk me to the door and kiss me good bye. He said he'd talk to me soon, and I believe him. Of all the guys I know I trust him the most. He isn't fake, he does the things he says he will. He may not want to be my boy friend, but he doesn't pretend to want to be either.

So to answer one of my past questions: Am I only attracted to unavailable men? Yes. But I never regret anything that made me smile.

Is It Me, Or Him?

After three great days together, lots of texts and a couple phone calls I still haven't been on another date with 5 Minutes Late. Why do guys do this? Why can't they just admit they like you and want to spend time with you? Or...if they aren't interested, why do they string you along and have you think there is a chance? Maybe I'm too forward. Is it wrong to just want the truth? So many questions, and no answers.

5 Minutes Late does have some moments of greatness. He showed up at my work, with hot chocolate and we took a walk around the lot. It was nice, and sweet. He did this twice, both times a few hours after he said he would. I know, big surprise, 5 Minutes Late was late. This guy has no ex-wife, no kids, a good job, a house, and he's smart. So what is his flaw? Is it me? Does he just not want a girl friend? Why would someone with everything else so together in their live not want a girl friend to share it all with it? Or am I just not the one for him?

Maybe I'm meeting guys in the wrong places. Or maybe I'm only attracted to unavailable men. As I said before, I'm giving online dating until the end of November, then I'm deleting my profile. I better start leaving the house. In the mean time, help me out with this one question: Is it me, or him?

Halloween, 5 Minutes Late

Three days later, no word from Dodge Guy. Oh well, moving on.

Thursday before I taught my class I met another online profile face to face. We met in the parking lot of the studio on the grounds of Royal Roads. We had planned on taking our dogs for a walk. He arrived five minutes late, in a Chevrolet, with a green tea for me. Our dogs are only a few months apart and about the same size, they were having a pretty good time running around, doing dog type things. 5 Minutes Late didn't seem very interested in me. He spent most of the time talking about our dogs, and so did I. We walked around the grounds for an hour and a half. The campus is beautiful in the fall, a view of the ocean, mountains and an famous castle that's been in tones of movies and TV shows. (Including Smallville, one of my favourites!!) We walked back to the parking lot and he asked if I wanted to get together again. I was a little surprised because he didn't seen too into me. After my class I had a BBM from him asking what I was doing the next night. Of course, nothing, so I gladly made plans to go out for a drink. Not going to lie, I'm a little excited. He's really cute, and did I mention he drives a Chevrolet??

He picked me up, you guessed it, 5 Minutes Late. I'm usually early or on time, so this could drive me crazy. We decide to go for dinner and drinks and head to The Four Mile Pub. I ordered some cheap champagne and a Certified Angus Beef dip ($11)and he ordered spiced rum and ginger and the Fajita Roll up with salmon chowder ($14). Our food came quickly and we both agreed it was delicious. He was really easy to talk to, never an awkward silence, and he made me laugh. He told me I was hard to read. I guess I am a fairly guarded, but I didn't realise I was hard to read. I was definitely having a good time and was really interested in him. The service was great, drinks kept full, dishes removed, friendly server. She even let us know that after they serve three drinks they ask if you are driving. She did it with tact and professionalism, it's a great policy. 5 Minutes Late suggested that we carve pumpkins. Awesome idea!! We finish up and head to the Super Store to pick some up. We went to my house and never ended up carving the pumpkins, but we did drink the rest of my Grey Goose. Time for a trip to duty free!

Saturday morning he BBM'd me and said he would come get me at eleven to go for breakfast. I love going out for breakfast so I was ready on time. He was again late, but I like him, so of course I can't be mad. Plus he brought me season one of The Big Bang Theory to watch. I am easily bribed. We went to Milestones for Benny's and Mimosa's. Can't really go wrong there. Service and food were both fantastic. I rarely say this about restaurants in Victoria, so great work Milestones in Millstream Village. He invited me to his Halloween party he and his sister were throwing that night. I'm not too into parties where I don't know anyone, but I do want to see him so I accept the invite. He messaged me a while after dropping me off at home and asked for my phone number so he could call me instead. A guy who wants to call and talk? Must be a full moon.

His Halloween party ended up being pretty mellow, thank goodness. He spent the right amount of time with me considering I knew no one, but wasn't smothering me. He's pretty great, and I'm wondering how long he can keep it up. We went for breakfast again Sunday morning. I could go on for ever about how tragic the service was at the un-named Langford tap house we ended up at, but this isn't about how slow and un professional the server was, nor is it about how the food took 45 minutes and we were one of two tables, this is about my three day date. He sat at the table after we were done so I could watch my favorite team win for the second time this year, GO NINERS!, then we left. He kissed me good bye in the parking lot and it was just like the last page of a fairy tale. A perfect kiss after three days of greatness, and for once his timing was right, not 5 Minutes Late. Will he call me again? I hope so. We I ever go to that terrible place in the Four Points Sheraton again? Absolutely not.